Homecoming at Ohio University calls for a parade, football and alumni coming back to party on their old stomping grounds. Taking the unconventional route, I invited my sister Amy, a Kent State University alumna, to visit for the weekend. Through photo and interview, I captured our growing relationship as now adult siblings. A freshman experience like no other...
One Word to Describe HallOUween
When asked one word to describe their Halloween experience at Ohio University, here is what 100 people said:
Fun- My first year Halloween experience was definitely a fun one. Getting to experience the block party with friends is all I could have asked for.
Special- Knowing that the block part is the 3rd biggest block party in America, made me feel special to be able to go and enjoy it as an Ohio University student.
Cold- The night was definitely cold causing me to bundle up and cover my costume, but did not ruin my night.
"Is this school for me?"
When asked this question, I think of myself and how I made this decision. It is hard to decide at such a young age where you will spend the next four years. What I found most beneficial was to make your own personal check list of what you want in a school. Once a list is made, it will be easier to pick a school that fits into what you want. Hopefully this little list will help you decide if you are making the right decision!
Distance From Home-It is very important to decide how far you would be willing to be away from home. Do you want to be in state or out of state? Close to your hometown or as far as possible. A good way to figure out what you want, is to think the logistics of every option: will you be coming home often, what is your mode of transportation home, do you have family nearby?
Campus Life-Depending on your hometown, this may contribute to your decision if you want to be in a rural area, city campus or more of a suburb "college" town. You may also want to look into what the campus offers you for living accommodations. What are the dorms like, can you park your car on campus, what are the dinning halls like, what is there to do on and off campus?
Money-Something to consider when looking at schools, is the tuition and room and board. If you can afford a school or will need to take out loans should play a big role in picking a college. If a school is willing to give you a scholarship, you should also consider this when making the final decision on a school.
What You Value-What exactly are you looking for in a school? Are you going for sports, a specific major or educational program, the different clubs or the all around college experience at a specific school? Figure out what your priorities are that you want at your school.
Have faith that you are picking the right school. Typically, when you visit the school, you will know that you want to go their or not based on the "vibe" you will feel. If you feel at home, you will probably want to make it your home for the next four years.
The family lugged the heavy packed bags into the trunk and squeezed in their small car. On the way to the airport, the conversation was bubbly and lively, taking in the last moments with their son and brother. The short 20 minute drive to the airport was not long enough. Waiting for his plane to start loading passengers, the talking slows and the scene becomes solemn. They say their final goodbyes, hugging with tears rolling down their faces, unsure of when he will be home again.
He is in the military, and just like the other million military families in America, sons, daughters and spouses must leave to fight for our country. The turmoil and stress put on the families of those in the military is often overlooked, but being a military family offers pride and new opportunities unavailable to other families.
When Ben and Betsy Moskowitz’s son, Nick, enlisted in the Marines, they were both hesitant as to what the future held for their son, but had to stay supportive of his decision. After the 13-week-long boot camp, where all communication is cut except for letters, his family packed up and drove the almost 12 hour drive down from Ohio to Parris Island, South Carolina. Watching him graduate bootcamp brought proud tears of joy to their eyes as they were able to embrace him again.
Nick’s sister, Amy Moskowitz shares, “Graduating boot camp was an accomplishment he was very proud of which made everyone in the family feel proud and happy for him. At graduation, I knew that joining the military was the right decision for him. This experience has only made me view him with an even better lens than I was before.”
At that same graduation, Brittany Wimmer watched her now husband, TJ. She expressed the enormous amount of joy after seeing him after being apart for 13 weeks, “In that moment it didn't even matter how long it had been since we had last seen each other or how hard it had been being away from him. I was too proud of him to even worry about what we had just gone through as a couple. It truly made all the time we spent apart worth it when I saw who he had become and just how proud of himself he was.”
While everyone is proud of their son, daughter or spouse, having a family member in the military offers many daily hurdles that must be jumped over in order to maintain family order and strength. Military life, stress, anxiety, moving and deployment challenges families daily.
At a young age, Yenah Joe’s family had to move multiple times when her father’s assigned military base was changed. She now lives in Korea where she believes that, “Living the military life and moving has been a blessing. Moving to new places, especially overseas, opens your perspective on the world and different cultures. Since I go to a small Department of Defense school in Korea, I get to do a lot of different things and travel a lot.” Traveling and gaining new friends and experiences has helped Yenah grow into the person she is today but, “Moving has its downsides, like losing contact with friends, anxiety and uneasiness”
There comes a time where a family member is deployed, often being put into dangerous situations, separating them from their families. Deployment can create a ripple of stress that runs through the family affecting parents, siblings, spouses and children.
Wimmer’s husband, TJ, is stationed on a non-deployable base but if there was a day in the future where he had to be deployed, she would be extremely worried. A best friend of hers from high school did not make it back after his first deployment as a Marine. Although she would be supportive of her husband, “No one honestly wants their loved one to be put in danger.”
Spouses of those deployed now must care for the family, home and themselves. The increased amount of responsibilities, financial issues, loneliness, fear, sadness and quickly becoming overwhelmed felt by the spouse can spill over onto the children of the family resulting in behavioral problems. Military children face separation anxiety, temper tantrums, falling grades, eating disorders and other long-lasting emotional problems when a parent is deployed.
Research done by Child Trends, a nonprofit that focuses on improving the lives of children and their families found that, “Young children are at a higher risk of harm because of their emotional dependence on adults and their developing brains’ susceptibility to high levels of stress. The negative impacts of high stress can impact young children long term.”
David Murphey, Child Trends researcher and author states their concern that, “children exposed to stressful events, particularly traumatic stressful events, will have difficulty learning to cope with emotions, to do well socially and academically, and even have problems with their physical health.”
Working as a military police officer, Wimmer’s husband has inconsistent shifts changing every six months. Although her son is just the young age of two, she already sees the negative affects when he is crying asking for his dad, when he would not be home for 12-13 hours. Having a father in the military herself, Wimmer knows how hard it will be to see her children have to go through growing up with a father who must work or go to training for multiple months. She adds the positives that, “They will have an amazing role model to look up to. They will always feel loved and safe when he is around and that makes me happy to know.”
When the Moskowitz’s found out their son, Nick, was being deployed to Japan in 2014, there was a mix of emotions. While mother was sad he was being deployed, father thought, “it was a good opportunity to travel and see foreign lands” with sister agreeing, “I felt relieved that he was not going to a more dangerous place. I knew friends who had been deployed to Japan and my brother seemed excited to travel there so I was not too worried. Selfishly I also felt sad that he would be traveling away from home for so long and be missing the holidays.”
After deployment comes reintegration. Adjusting to a spouse or parent after deployment can be hard due to changing schedules and a shift in the environment in the home. Military members who have seen and experienced violent action during their deployment face a harder time adjusting back to civilian life making it harder for families to continue their regular routines. Children often have a hard time reconnecting to those who left them and may suffer from trust issues, always afraid they will leave again. The military homecomings seen on the internet do not show the hard realistic readjustment that must occur afterwards or those whose family members would never make it back, but only the happy families of those returning.
Living much of the first year of her marriage separated from her husband, TJ, Wimmer found it hard to adjust to living together again. She realized during her time apart how dependent she had become, but was able to change explaining, “This lifestyle has made me extremely independent in more ways than one. I now know I can function on my own without TJ being right next to me. I also don’t have my family to fall back on when the times get rough due to our distance and that has made me emotionally stronger as well. I am beyond thankful for how much personal growth has come from being a military spouse.”
Having a family member in the military positively affects so many families by making them stronger as a unit. Family members learn ways to cope with stress, cherish the small moments and to be thankful for what they have.
Through keeping in touch by phone, skype and social media, families can stay connected to their loved one. Talking to others who are going through the same situation helps you know that you are not alone.
Holidays can often be a time where family comes together, but frequently, military members are unable to come home on leave. Parents Ben and Betsy Moskowitz agree that, “We can’t spend every holiday together so it makes us more appreciative of holidays we do spend together” and that, “When he’s on leave it has brought the family closer together.”
A family member in the military puts everyone to the test on if they are able to stay together as one and support each other. Wimmer mentions, “We have grown so much already as a couple. I feel like anything that is thrown at us, we will survive and grow from.”
While nothing is set in stone with the military, with plans constantly changing, families are able to stay together, cherish time spent with each other and support each other as they go through the good times and the hard times.
Sister, Amy Moskowitz shows the resilience her family has, “From the day my brother enlisted in the military to the day he graduated boot camp to the day he moved to a military base or was deployed- our family stuck closely together and leaned on each other for support. We grew closer together.”
It is officially your year, class of 2017! This is your time to grow up and go off on your own. Here is a list of 17 things that you have to look forward to this year!
1. Last Week of School
That last week of school where you get to goof off, turn in your books and make fun of the underclassmen one last time.
This is the last time in your high school career to go the full nine yards by getting dressed up, taking pictures and dancing the night away. Prom also means the creative promposals. But like most things involved with high school, do not set your expectations too high or try to micromanage the night, just enjoy yourself.
The day you have waited for is finally here. You have been looking forward to commencement since freshmen year and now you are sitting in a room with everyone in your class for the last time. Enjoy the moment, take it all in, look around and move that tassel from right to left!
4. Grad Parties
Now that you have graduated, it is time to celebrate with your family and friends!
If you are going to college, you will have to go to a summer orientation to sign up for classes, see more of the campus and meet others who will be going to school with you. This is a time to meet new people so you don't go into college completely blind knowing no one except students from your high school.
6. Summer Nights
This is most likely your last summer that you and all of your friends will all be home at the same time. Enjoy and spend as much time as you want with the people you care about because chances are, you and your friends will be going in different directions when it comes to school.
7. Back to School Shopping
If you are a fan of regular back to school shopping, this year's back to school shopping is on the next level. You can finally buy things for your dorm room that you can plan and design by yourself or with your roommate. Along with this, you still get to buy all of your favorites: binders, folders, notebooks, pens, highlighters, etc.
8. Move in Day
While rather stressful, this day you'll meet who you will be living with on your floor, your RA and possibly your roommate. And if your parents come to help you move in, this will be your last time with them until you come home again. Move in day symbolizes the first day that you will be on your own without parental supervision.
9. Meeting New People
You are finally at college! It is now time to meet new people!
10. Freshman 15/Getting in Shape
During this new stage in your life, this is one of the only times that it is truely "okay" to gain weight and is even labelled "The Freshman 15". During this time though, with most schools offering free recreational centers to students, you may take matters into your own hands and actually get in shape.
While your high school may have had a lot of clubs or sports, college will offer so many clubs you will be amazed. There will be clubs that you would not even think about along with recreational sports that do not need tryouts. It is all for fun so go out and try different sports and join clubs and meet new people with similar interests as you.
12. Trying Something New
This is the time to experiment with new things. Try new activities, dye your hair or anything that you have always wanted to do (within limits, do not do anything illegal or something that will get you in trouble). There are no parents at college so who is stopping you?
13. School Spirit
While you could not pick/were forced to go to your high school, you picked your college. Before you even move in, you will have an entire wardrobe full of school apparel and school colors.
14. Finding Yourself
Your time in college will allow you to let your true colors show. Try fashions you want, change your hair and find true, life long friends.
15. Coming Home Again
After months of not being home, it is time to come back for break. Your family will stuff you with food, you will hangout with old friends who are also on break and you will look back at your high school and see how far you have come in just a short couple of months since graduation.
16. You Are One Year Older
This year you'll be getting older, possibly turning 18 (YAY? You are an adult finally) or maybe even older, and it is time to celebrate!
17. Simply Enjoying it
This year is your year! Relax, enjoy it and make the best of it. You can say that this will be your year, but it will only be your year if you make it your year.
Happy New Year!
(All photos courtesy of Giphy)
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Starbucks cups do not define the holidays. Yearly controversy over the “red cup” that is used to serve coffee at Starbucks began in 2015 with the blank red cup and continued in 2016 with the “green cup”.
Dating back to 2015, Starbucks made the decision to use a plain, red-ombre cup as their holiday cup. This was the first year since 1997 that the cups did not have any holiday design or element appearing on their holiday cup. While some adored the simple cups, others viewed it as Starbucks initiating a war on Christmas.
When the 2015 holiday cup contained no sign of holiday cheer, Christian customers were outraged. They viewed it as Starbucks oppressing Christians’ beliefs or to appeal to non-Christian customers. I would like to note that in the past 18 years no Starbucks holiday cup specifically featured a Christmas scene but only wintery images or abstract Christmas ornaments or lights. The company never touched the real Biblical Christmas story and never put it on their cups.
The year 2016 brought a great divide to America. From Nov 1-9, Starbucks released a green cup with a single, connected line that drew out the face of over 100 people. CEO Howard Schultz said “During a divisive time in our country, Starbucks wanted to create a symbol of unity as a reminder of our shared values, and the need to be good to each other”.
With the release of the green cup, customers were terrified that there would be no red holiday cup. Other customers were outraged viewing the cups as a political statement from the company. I did not see the faces of Hillary Clinton or Donald Trump on the cup, nor was the cup made blue or red showing the company’s political views. What was suppose to show unity during the division in America during the election only brought unity through customers coming together to agree that they did not approve of the cup.
The only thing truly unifying to Starbucks customers was the revival of the red holiday cup. Starting on Nov 10, 2016 Starbucks began serving their piping hot drinks in 13 different designed red cups.
After the 2015 explosion and outrage from customers over the red cup, Starbucks knew people wanted the holiday designs back. As of now, there has been zero controversy or harm made by the new 2016 cups.
Starbucks’ Vice President of Marketing, Nancy Poznoff, offered her opinion that “The holidays don’t start until you’ve had your first red cup at Starbucks”. The holidays do not need to have a red cup in order for it to be special. The real reason for the season should be the focused, not what a company’s decision on what cup to sell coffee in.
What your coffee comes in should not change the actual product it is just the way it is delivered and has nothing to do with actual taste or quality of the drink. We are not only arguing and boycotting something as silly as a holiday cup, but we are letting it divide us. Holidays are not about cups.
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Starbucks annually releases seasonal drinks to bring a little bit of holiday cheer into the customer's’ daily cup of coffee. This year, Starbucks released these drinks the day after Halloween on Nov 1. Once inside the calm, shadowy Starbucks on Royalton Rd. in Strongsville, five out of the six total drinks were ordered after apologizing for ordering so much.
The barista offered help and gave the suggestion that the Eggnog Latte was better iced than hot. Considering the time it takes to make 5 drinks, the Starbucks’ baristas were fast as usual with the piping hot drinks out in no time. During the short wait, I found the music to be relaxing and not distracting making it the perfect spot to pick up a drink and study for midterms or finals but there was no special quirks typically found in small coffee shops that are not chains.
If one tall (small) holiday drink is purchased, the price is $4.25 with the prices only increasing as you get bigger in size. Buying one as a nice treat every once in a while will not break the bank but if it is a regular thing, it is better off to just make coffee at home and add different creamers or speciality flavor coffee beans.
When comparing the Caramel Brulée Latte, Chestnut Praline Latte, Eggnog Latte, Gingerbread Latte and the regular and skinny Peppermint Mocha there was a clear winner and an unfortunate clear loser. When reading the description of the Gingerbread Latte, “The flavor of gingerbread combined with espresso and steamed milk. Finished with a topping of whipped cream and ground nutmeg”(Starbucks) brings visions of childhood memories during the holidays. Sadly this was not the case. There was too much spice that overpowered the soft gingerbread taste. Unless the drinker loves strong spices and nutmeg this drink should be avoided.
The Caramel Brulée Latte, Chestnut Praline Latte and Eggnog Latte were okay but seemed to not bring the drinker to holiday bliss. These drinks tasted like standard Starbucks drinks that can be ordered all year but with just a “fancy” name and simply fell short of their expectations.
Not only the yearly fan favorite, the clear winner of the evening was the Peppermint Mocha. Although the Skinny Peppermint Mocha was not ordered, they are both the same drink just with different milk changing the total amount of calories while giving the same great taste. The drink tastes like the creators of Starbucks walked through Candyland’s peppermint forest and combined the flavor with mocha and coffee making this a perfect holiday beverage.
The Starbucks’ 2016 holiday drinks were underwhelming and proved to have misleading names with some drinks practically already existing under other names. High school senior, *name taken out for privacy*, agrees that “The holiday drinks at Starbucks were disappointing. Knowing the different seasonal drinks and how amazing they are I was expecting more. Overall, the drinks were just average and nothing special”.
This holiday, give the seasonal beverages a try or skip the hassle and go straight for the Peppermint Mocha or a standard coffee that is available all year long.
Atmosphere 9/10 Standard Starbucks coffee shop
Service 10/10 Speedy service and helpful baristas
Price 6/10 Not too expensive for the occasional treat
Overall rating of the holiday drinks as a whole 3/5
1. You have been listening to Christmas music since November 1st.
2. You put up your decorations before Thanksgiving.
3. You get Starbucks the day they release the red cup.
4. You practice wrapping presents.
5. You already had a holiday movie marathon.
6. You plan when to wear holiday sweaters.
7. Your holiday playlists have been perfectly arranged.
8. Your countdown has been going all year long.
9. You made blueprints for your gingerbread house.
10. Your Christmas list has been made and given to all family members.
I hope that everyone has a magical holiday filled with cheer, family and fun. Please note that the holidays are not all about the presents and decorations, but remember the real reason for the season!
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lure (someone) into a relationship by means of a fictional online persona
A catfisher is a person who pretends to be someone they're not, and often uses social media to create a false identity in an effort to mislead. Catfishing, therefore, is typically when a person uses this fake identity to build a relationship with another person online. (Fox News Magazine)
This concept was introduced first with the movie Catfish that investigated Nev Schulman's own catfish story. Later MTV picked up this idea and produced the show Catfish where Nev and his cohost Max Joseph investigate and help others uncover their catfishers.
The reason someone decides to catfish someone varies from case to case but the most obvious reasons are the need of an ego boost, boredom, jealousy, the want for nude pictures or other sexual acts and the list goes on.
Getting catfished is seen as an embarrassing thing because it shows how gullible you are but I'm here to share my story to help cope with the emotions that I have felt and to hopefully inform others to see that this is not something made up on TV and to help others who have gone through similar situations.
Luckily, this only went on from Wednesday, Nov. 2nd- Saturday, Nov. 5th because I was smart enough to not believe everything my catfisher said.
How I Got Into This Situation
You may ask "How did you even get into this situation?" Well there is an easy answer. Social Media. In 2016, social media is a big part in the younger generation's lives. I had received a follow request from someone I did not know through Instagram on Nov 2nd, 2016. I let the boy follow me and I requested to follow them. He immediately began liking my pictures and even commented on one. What does any giddy girl do when an attractive guy starts commenting on pictures? You respond. This was my first mistake.
We began talking through Instagram's direct messages and when we "clicked" we decided to text. This is mistake number two. NEVER GIVE YOUR NUMBER TO ANYONE YOU DO NOT KNOW UNLESS YOU ARE CERTAIN IT IS THEM.
Unfortunately, I got a little excited that a guy was interested in talking to me even if they were in another state so I allowed them to continue talking to him.
What Made Him Seem Real
As an avid viewer of the show Catfish, I was suspicious from the very start. I knew all the tricks from the show. I searched every photo he sent me on Google Images but no photos could be traced (if a photo is screenshot then it will not trace to the original. EEEK not good).
I searched the phone number and it was someone living in the state they said they lived in and had the correct area code.
He lived in a southern state and when we actually talked on the phone, he had a southern accent that no one would be able to fake for a long period of time while talking on the phone.
He knew information about the city and surrounding cities and area that he said he lived in (because I did my fact checking). And he knew this while talking on the phone when you would not have time to look up information online.
When texting or talking on the phone, he sounded like the average teenage boy by the way he talked, his word choice and sentence structure.
When looking at these points, one could believe that he was who he said he was without a doubt, but with every believable point, there is a red flag.
The Red Flags
To start, the "fake" Instagram only had a few posts when it followed me and the first post was from only 21 hours before, and the page had over 8,000 followers. This made it seem like it was a page "bought" from someone else that had gained the followers and then sold the account. Or it could be from another "catfish" but was starting fresh with a new identity.
The number that texted me was an iphone number starting with the +1 but it was always text never imessage and I know myself being an apple user, I love imessage and was shocked that he would choose to have his phone only use text. This could also mean he used a texting "app" that could create a phone number with any area code
He told me that his high school was grades 8-12 which I thought was a little strange. (I did look this up later and found that the school was only grades 9-12). He said his school ended at 4 which I thought was weird because it is pretty late for a high school to be getting out but I let it slide at first. Then he called me because I was out of school but he was technically still suppose to be in school.
He claimed to have played football, baseball and basketball (which the real one does so you could find the name on rosters). It was the day before his "football game" and he claimed that practice was cancelled which did not seem likely because the game was against the high school's rival school.
The night of the football game, he texted me when it was 9:40 p.m. his time saying they won the game. As a high schooler, I know that games do not end that early and if you were a player you would still be on the field or in the locker rooms even if the game was over. I then asked what the final score was and he did not tell me until 2:00 a.m. and when I looked online, that was the time the score was posted online. He said that he got held up after the game and could not tell me the final score until later because of a "senior meeting" since it was the last regular season game. Normally this would have made sense but he is not a senior so he would not have to be at that "senior meeting".
While talking on the phone one day, I mentioned having a snapchat. After the call, he texted asking what my snapchat username was and I gave it to him. I immediately noticed that it was a brand new snapchat because the only snapchats his account had ever sent were snapchats to me. But he was too "good" at snapchat and knew all the "tricks" to it and was clearly not a beginner. When I asked for him to send a selfie on snapchat, he claimed he deleted the app because his mom did not want him to have one and he went behind her back in the first place to get one. He then proceeded to send me a screenshot from his "mom" telling him she did not want him to have snapchat.
What pushed me over the edge, was when he sent this picture of his "backyard".
I called him out saying there was no way it was his backyard (because that backyard looks too good to be true just like he was) and that I wanted a selfie as proof. This is how he responded:
What's not to believe I've got no reason to lie...So now I'm a liar lol...Cause this is totally a catfish...Like we've connected so amazingly and you don't even think I'm a real person...Like fucking Google me I'm pretty sure I'm who I say I am...No that's childish to even consider...Why would I do that...Cause there isn't anything fake going on with me.
News Flash---If you are real and feel a connection, then you would just send the selfie and prove that you are real. Also he encouraged me to look him up so me uncovering the truth was basically his own mistake. Although the catfisher stole the real persons name, photos and basic building blocks of his life, the made up information is what gave it away as to him being fake.
But The Story Continues
Check out Part 2 and Part 3 of my catfish story found on my blog under the category "My Catfish Story"
(All photos courtesy of Giphy)
I feel like I was on my own episode of MTV's show Catfish. Unfortunately, this was just Hannah edition and I did not have the help of amazing hosts, Nev Schulman and Max Joseph. Part two of my catfish experience, I am going to show you how I researched and found the real guy. If you are new to my story, check out part 1 for background information.
I researched the name and as I previously stated in Part 1, the catfisher not only take pictures, but also took the name and basic story of the real guy. This meant that when I researched the name, I found the actual guy's name on rosters for the sports he played at the correct school and any pictures online were of him.
When researching the school though, I saw he lied about the number of grades it had, the number of students and lied about classes. One day, I asked what class he was in and he said "Art History". Upon further investigation, I found that the high school he said he went to did not even offer that class. The cherry on top of the lies about the school is he said he has a female principal and when I researched it, a male principal popped right up.
When you start talking to anyone new, you look up all of their social medias to see if they have any, to get personal information and maybe even a few pictures. I could find no Twitter, but found an old Facebook but with a picture of "him" that he had sent to me.
Then I looked up his actual name and not username on Instagram and found the real guy...
I requested to follow the real account and they requested me back. I looked and saw pictures I had previously seen but also saw information that would have been wrong if it was the same person including the facts that the real guy had a girlfriend, was religious and had a different family than what I had been described.
I messaged the real guy and told him straight forward "Someone is using your pictures to catfish people". He was shocked. We talked a little and I did some fact checking with information that I was told and all of it was wrong from family to pets and to the infamous backyard. I sent the real guy the photos I was sent and he told me where they came from (Instagram, Twitter and the creepiest was one from his orthodontist).
I then gave the real guy the "fake's" number incase he wanted to try to contact it (even though if my theory that it was a fake number from an app is correct, then it was already deleted and could not be contacted). The real guy figures that it is most likely someone from a rival/surrounding school that did not like him or possibly someone from his own school but whoever it was, follows him on his private Instagram and Twitter.
How It All Ended
After finding the real Instagram, I texted the catfisher and said "Why do you have two Instagrams" just to call them out and in that very moment, the fake Instagram blocked me and then deleted the account and is now labeled as "unused account". I then assume that the catfisher blocked my number or deleted their number if it was a fake because they never responded to any texts after that point of me just asking why he would do this and any calls I tried to make that day never went through and went straight to voicemail.
I then reported the fake Instagram (yes it was already shut down but I still reported it) and I blocked the Instagram and blocked the number after getting no responses for the rest of the night.
I have never felt so personally violated and all around grossed out. To open up to someone and find out everything they ever said was a lie makes you lose a little hope in society. I do feel sad for the catfisher though because I know that someone must be really going through something mentally or very hard in their life to do this to another human being.
Unlike the show Catfish, I never found out who the person behind the fake was and I probably never will. For more information on my new advice pertaining to internet safety, read Part 3 right here on my blog or you can find it under the category: "My Catfish Story"
(All photos courtesy of Giphy)